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May 20, 2015

The Baby Question

Pop quiz: Do you want children? More importantly, do I want children?! AHHHHHHH!!! The plaguing question of the 30-something, strong, independent woman army. After a “cervical massage” at the doctor this morning and some pillow talk about my current sexual relationship, my new gynecologist brought up the idea that I may want to switch from a bill control pill to an IUD. Because apparently it’s inappropriate to be on birth control for 12 years. (Seriously, it is. It causes melasma, those dark pigmentation spots. NOT fabulous). Anyway, the point is an IUD will work for up to 5 years. And that sounded totally appropriate to me. I said to myself,…

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May 1, 2015

Embrace Your Weakness

I came up with a theory at breakfast this morning that just might get me kicked out of the land of strong independent women. Instead of digging deep and finding strength, I’m ready to embrace my weakness. Before Madonna and Hilary Clinton come to toss me to the curb, let me explain: Embrace Your Weakness I ate breakfast this morning in the NH Zuid Amsterdam hotel. They have a wonderful buffet that includes charcuterie, these funny Dutch bread sprinkles, fruit, cereal, bread, cheese, pastries and an omelet bar. I happily ignored the shocked looks from hotel staff as I kept going up to caress the tremendous variety…

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April 29, 2015

Sources of Creativity

I look for sources of creativity everywhere I go. That’s because my creative life is important to me. Every day I try to find time to write or draw or walk or learn something new. It helps break up the time between episodes of Top Chef Junior and bottles of Ribera del Duero. With writing, my best words come early in the morning. But I have fallen into a writing trap. I affectionately call it the “I-like-to-write-about-my-morning-anxiety” trap. When I review my sunrise thoughts, they seem to circle around themes like “drowning” and “burning”. Rather decidedly un-fabulous. So in the interest of changing my mental bandwidths (and my newfound thoughts…

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April 28, 2015

Present Tense

In my constant quest for my most fabulous life, I realized I need to think about how to use present tense. Because I often talk in past tense. And it’s decidedly un-fabulous. For example: “Last night’s episode of Keeping up the Kardashians PBS Nature was amazing!” “My girlfriends and I took a trip to Woodbury Commons Vegas Napa Valley last year ““I read in the news about Bruce Jenner Dancing the Stars the upcoming presidential election” Instead of all this talk in the past, I want to discover how to use present tense. I’ve been puzzling all year over how to “live closer to the moment” and feel more involved in my everyday life….

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April 23, 2015

Morning Sunshine!

In my modern working girl life fantasies, I know how to feel fabulous when the alarm goes off. I spring out of bed in the morning fashionable and fresh, efficiently iMessaging about important appointments and ready to change the world every day. Like this: In reality, this morning when my alarm clock went off I stretched, blinked half heartedly and spent 5 minutes trying to think of something exciting enough about my looming day to get me out of bed. Like this: …

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April 19, 2015

Happy Spring

Happy Spring! Much like the sweet breeze and the afternoon sunshine, I’m back! It’s been a long winter with lots of work stress, dry skin and writing about the general and consuming frustrations of life in my paper journals. Then I thought, “Self…this is the year 2015. Take this self-involved diatribe back to the interwebs!” So here I sit, clicking away self-consciously, trying to find a way to reconcile all of my innermost thoughts and problems to this very public forum. The first thing it makes me realize about my problems…they’re stupid. I’m not very good at my job. Who cares? My clothes don’t fit very well over my newly-acquired…

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October 30, 2014

Pick and Choose

I spend a lot of time every day asking myself pick and choose questions. Do I really want that croissant? Will I still be able to button my pants if I eat that croissant? What is going to happen with Ebola? If I am going to die of Ebola anyway, why not just eat the stupid croissant? Etc. This type of internal dialogue is what gets me through the day. I have perfected my, “Oh, of course I’m paying attention to what your saying. You are so INTERESTING. Please go on.” face so that I can happily talk to myself inside my head while people are blathering on about….well, frankly…

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October 30, 2014

Always Be Nice

It’s important to always be nice. Even when you don’t like the person you are talking to. Even when you’re bored and hungry and late for something. Even when the November doldrums set in and instead of being nice you are just desperately trying to get from one cup of vodka wine coffee tea…yeah…tea to the next without losing your mind. Why, you ask? Well, funny enough I have been asking myself the same thing lately (the above scenarios are not simply a matter of blog-land fiction). Here’s why I think it’s important to be nice: 1. It’s good for your blood pressure. When I am having a pleasant conversation…

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October 17, 2014

The Busy Trap: Passion vs. Busy-ness

Tim Kreider recently wrote an opinion piece for the NY Times titled “The Busy Trap”. If you are too cheap for a NYT subscription, you can read my summary below: What is the busy trap? People create ‘The Busy Trap’, full of busy-ness for themselves. Busyness is an annoying, distracted state that allows people to focus on being annoyed and distracted instead of processing any real information or real life experiences. Mr. Kreider makes a particularly striking and beautiful point about feeling like he has to shout over the self-imposed hysteria of “busy-ness” in order to make simple plans with friends. The idea of busy-ness taking the place…

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